How to be a better loser
How to be a better loser
How to be a better loser
By Blakely Low-Scott
March 8, 2023
Summary
Mindfulness, on the other hand, involves climbing out of the stream of experiences and on to the riverbank, where we can sit beside the stream and observe our sensations, thoughts and emotions flow by, moment to moment.
One can be mindful of an experience as simple as the sensation of breathing, or as complex as all the thoughts and emotions that come up after a loss.
Self-esteem is partly dependent on comparison: how I feel about myself is connected to how I stack up against you.
You might have a thought like: Everyone else is better at this than me.
So how can you construct more workable thoughts after you've experienced a loss? Follow these tips: try to focus your thoughts on the present moment, on the task at hand, and on your process.
It's not difficult to understand that a thought such as I can't believe how terribly I played will not help this competitor; it is past-focused, self-defeating and discouraging.
If the player can be mindful of these internal experiences, they can choose to shift their attention to thoughts that will work better in this moment.
Reference
Low-Scott, B. (2023, March 8). How to be a better loser: Psyche guides. Psyche. Retrieved March 30, 2023, from https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-be-a-better-loser-and-grow-from-your-mistakes